Don't think it's just women married to male physicians who suffer. As a man who married a non-Mormon woman, my story has a slightly different view point, but it comes down to essentially the same principles. While we have a good marriage but he has no idea how lonely I am for my him. I was definitely taking the "Tough love" approach because I've read countless times on this and other boards, how Mormons claimed that they were cool with their SO not being Mormon, and that they weren't, themselves, orthodox. I was recently married to my husband in the Twin Falls, Idaho temple for time and all eternity. What my boyfriend and I used to do when we were long distance is write really, crazy long emails to each other almost as long as my blog posts. Most of us were suckled on that teat too. Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email. But you are setting yourself up to leave the Church more easily, and even if you agree the children will be raised Mormon, your kids will likely not continue to participate in the Church as adults. But equally, does this mean you will have to sanction what you do, say and watch regarding Mormonism.
It's in the Mormon DNA. I suppose it depends on your personality. But those days may be gone. I learned, growing up, that very principle, that you HAD to marry a member or your marriage was doomed. And depending on his views of the Sabbath, you will probably get the tug of war on Sundays.
Please start another thread and continue the conversation. I have so often heard wow you married a doctor The truth is I will always come second to his job and he will never know how lonely I am for him to put me first. Its was written in shorthand so its hard to read. It sounds like you unfortunately ran into this guy at the wrong point in life. Her beliefs are innocous but ultimately a death sentence for this relationship. I'm not trying to be mean, just very clear. And occasionally I have queried the wisdom of that choice. You should ask yourself if you want to have input on the way your children are raised. And I don't have issues with her, hell, haven't even seen her in over 20 years, but the experience with the whole Mormon thing gave me better insight in to many things in life.
Dating a resident is hard - it was hard to realize that I can't come first, or even second, in this relationship right now. I can accept her, and she's told me she can accept me The challenging part for me now is the idea of putting my kids through the brainwashing. If she is full on Mormon, this relationship will go one of two ways: You will convert and change your entire lifestyle and personality to conform with her expectations never to deconvert or you will face severe penalitesor you will break up because you won't convert and change everything about yourself. In each case, you should also consider how this will affect your families. Of course, your parents will care most. When he's not at work, he's busy preparing or at conferences or studying, basically non existent. In each case, you should also consider how this will affect your families. Early in our relationship, I gave some thought to the question of whether I would ever be willing to marry a non-Mormon. If she can accept me for who I am and what I believe, knowing that I'll never give her the eternal family she wants, then maybe we'll be ok.
